Unemployment slump

When I used to read or hear about unemployment, I never thought I’d be part of this phenomena. I’m smart, ethical and fundamentally driven to make a difference so why is it that I’m not being wowed by compelling offers by every company. When I made the decision to change my career path, I thought following my authentic self will open doors for me, that I won’t need nepotism to land a job, I’ll land it all on my own.

But then I had my the world is bigger than your problems’ moment, I attended a jobfair. It was one of those rude awakening moments, it was very sobering to know I was not the only one. The area was closed down at the time the jobfair was supposed to opennationals from all over Abu Dhabi and it suburbs showed up two to three hours before the opening time to stand in line and get ahead start. The room was packed with unemployed UAE nationals age ranging from 18 to 50?. An older lady sat to my right who looked old enough to be retired, she was desperate to find a job as a cashier in Abu Dhabi Co-operative Society but was devastated to find out that they were looking for a candidate with at least a diploma degree and she only finished high school. The other girl sitting to my left was a fresh graduate and this was her third job fair, she was a pro by the time I met her; she knew that we can take breaks, and that its going to be a long sit-down so bring in your cup of coffee and some visual entertainment to cut time.

It was not just me, I’m not a singular effect. that was the moment I realized I was part of a percentage. According to tradingeconomics.com UAE unemployment rate increased to 1.72 percent in 2017 from 1.64 percent in 2016.

Nonetheless people like me push forward and continue to put ourselves out there. Every morning brings in new possibilities, so we apply, make a number of phone calls. But we are always faced with this endless debilitating loop of not getting the job because we don’t have enough experience or not getting it because we are not fresh graduates

“But no, this job is for fresh graduates”. I’ve heard this statement at the end of the line so many times. But your job description states you are looking for a no experience to two-year experience candidate and I’m it, so why not shortlist the best candidates for the position without being rigid and traditional in terms of picking who you find qualified? 

The United states Bureau of Labor Statistics revealed that individuals change careers 11.9 times in their lifetime. Almost everyone starts their careers practicing what they learned but with growth and exposure comes self-evaluation that bachelor’s degree shouldn’t set in stone careerpath. The 11,943 civilians who were surveyed were able to pivot and remold their future. Age and the date of graduation should not be an issue. Passiondrive and most importantly skillset should be taken into account during the shortlisting process.

Yet I am left at the end of each day feeling that professionals like me missed their chance and now we are redundant unless we know someone who knows someone. 

 
 

Effort makes the best impression

When looking to grow or as the Jefferson’s Theme Song goesmoving on up in our professional life, depending mainly on our wall of achievements will most times than not take us nowhere. While an overachiever successful person can get you a meeting or can get you shortlisted. But on a personal level and professional, people want to know how you got to where you are today, what were the struggles and tumbles youve gone through to get to where you are. They are looking for relatability and humbleness. People who take first meeting to explain how successful theyve been in achieving their goals without mentioning the hardship that got them there might never live to see a second meeting. Mainly because they fill the room with an underwhelming sense of excitementHowever, when someone reveals the failures behind their success, they start to feel identifiable and relatable. 

In a study titled Impression (Mis) Management When Communicating Success Dr. Janina Steinmetz explained that A success story isnt complete without the hard work and explanation of why we were successful. Did the success come easy, thanks to ones talents, or was it attained through hard work? Both of these attributions can be part of successful self-promotion, but my research shows that emphasizing effort is more likely to garner a positive impression and people really want to know the story behind your success.

Resume is a clear indicator of our professional successful landmarks. Recruiters can look through your social media account(LinkedIn, Instagram) to get an idea of how you want to be perceived. It also offers an introduction of who you are and/or a summery in terms of career choices and interests. A sit-down interview, on the other hand, requires openness and digging deep. Recruiters want to see whats your character like in person, behavioral interview to see if your personality will fit well with the team, to ensure that youll be able to get along.

In most cases people who achieved a lot can appear jaded or even worse will have a demeanor that says, my work speaks for itself. They wont show the effort that it took from them to get to where they are. Whilst a person with a success checklist less checked will show all the enthusiasm that can be fathomed to make sure that the interviewer realizes what the candidate lack in success milestones, they more than make up for it in effort and hardwork.

Interviewers encountered candidates who try to seem like an overachiever maybe even try to lie their way through an interview, but what they neglect to see that this approach will get them eliminated faster than if they chose to be honest about their achievement regardless of how humble they seem compared to others.  Moreover, interviewers who actually put in the work can spot when an interviewee who tries to fabricate by realizing that they arent familiar with an important detail or inaccurately talk about a task related to the work they are interviewed for. This ultimately cuts their chances of getting a future phonecall for a job that might better suit their skillset and experience.  Since their first impression interview showed how unethical the candidate was.

Ultimately, humbleness and humility win always when put side to side with overconfidence and a bragging personality. Its best to use the time offered during the first interview wisely, by balancing it between your successful milestones and the effort you put into getting there.

TV Show review: Bodyguard

I don’t normally binge watch but when I do its usually a sign that the show is doing something right. Bodyguard opens with a train terrorist attack that leaves you holding your breath while sitting at the edge of your seat. This attack was the first of many along the way. The show was filmed beautifully, and the actors did a great job delivering the script. The audience received it well since its debut, as of now it’s the most watched television drama in BBC for the last 10 years.

The political drama with an investigative drama undertone was created by Jed Mercurio creator of line of duty. The cast were great; two of the most notable actors were; Keeley Hawes who played a home secretary called Julia Montague.Montague was a conservative politician that was not very well liked publicly, she also managed to mention a remark that was insensitive and triggering to war veterans who risked their lives and lost their friends in the line of fire. David Budd a war veteran had a hard time wrapping his head around protecting Montague knowing her political views, but he quickly turns around after seeing her kinder, softer side. Budd was played by Richard Madden, Madden was known for his perfomce in Game of thrones as Robb Stark the less memorable stark, I never thought much about his acting skills then because it didnt really stand out but his performance playing a PTSD war veteran, now police sergeant protecting the home secretary was impeccable and deserves accolades fromhis short-fused panic attacks to his stares while scanning the premises.

The first 3 episodes were amazing, it had all the right makings of great television show. The storyline kept getting better;there was conspiracy, some political manipulation and fight between police and security service (MI5) to be in the lead. However, the final 3 episodes fell through, it was somewhat underwhelming and, in some scenes, felt like an overkill. 

(spoilers) When I first saw the poster of the show, I thought It would be the bodyguard (1992) meets homeland. The affair between the home secretary and her bodyguard was predictable, I knew it even before watching the trailer. 

And when the bomb took the life of the home secretary, Buddcouldnt handle the guilt of not being able to protect her, or it could be that her death was the final nail in the coffin, since he was already a struggling PTSD veteran with depressive tendencies uses alcohol to drown his emotions. David Buddended up shooting himself.

I thought wow, they jumped the gun. I cant believe they just killed two of the only main characters who mattered on the show. But one of them emerged, I guess the writer and producer realized it would be an overkill. It turns out the gun Budds used had only empty shells. That blank bullet resulted in blood spatter, there was a clear head wound that apparently onlyneeded some alcohol and a cotton wipe. No apparent brain hemorrhage or bleeding, it didnt even affect his vision or hearing. I try not to overanalyze it and move on to find out who was behind the bombings.

The final episode was 30 minutes longer than it needed to be. With the plot moving too fast from the police finding evidence that Budd was the bomber to him waking up after being drugged with an explosive vest on. That whole explosive vest blunder was nerve-wrecking at the beginning,but it made you wonder why havent they killed him yet? Why risk civilians or police force for someone who they all were convinced was the perpetrator. He is a death threat walking through streets of London to his apartment to retrievethe evidence of his innocence and to expose the guilty parties. All the while pressing on the bomb device that somehow did not detonate over that overnight (possible 12 hour) walk?How is it that the nerve on his thumb didnt spasm to cause the bomb to blow up is mind boggling. 

The final twist came out of nowhere, Nadia who at the beginning was thought of as someone who was coerced into wearing that suicide vest on the train by her husband at the beginning of the show, was actually the mastermind of thatwhole operation. It turns out she had an engineering degree (which makes you question how thorough did they investigate her?). she came clean because no one ever suspected her of being the minds of the operation but just of an obedient role (how masterful is she if she had to risk her freedom or a less prison sentence to prove a point?). 

Now, was the moral of that plot is to never underestimate women or that if its a bomb then it has to be a Muslim terrorist? 

Aside from all that bodyguard is a worthwhile series to watch, maybe even binge watching it over an empty scheduled weekend. The bodyguard got a 98% score on Rotten tomatoes, an excellent indication that the show is received well. Hopefully this show is the first of many great tv shows created by BBC that arent period dramas and aren’t focused on making every terrorist Muslim. 

Everyone is an armchair psychologist

They attend few selfimprovement lectures and think they have you all figured out and are prepared to give you solid adviceDepending mostly on the book or audio that resonated with them the most; you are either an introvert or extrovert, bipolar or borderline. If you take one too many selfies, then you’re a narcissist. if you are easily effected by the day to day circumstances you must be a bipolar. 

From the second we get out of the womb our surroundings start to put us in boxes. Fussy must be like her dad, quiet must be like her aunt,..etc. when the human brain is ever evolving, genetics and current demeanor aren’t sufficient enough to make an assessment. Just because their entire family is quiet doesn’t mean the person quiet right is quiet for hereditary reasons. People rarely take into account other nuance like having a bad day, or a deeper nuance like a childhood trauma or recent rejection or a loss that leaves a person vulnerable. 

You don’t need to have a degree in psychology to compartmentalize people. It might have started with our parents, but it continued with us, using it as a way to figure out why our parents behave the way they do? Better understand or even accept friends? It goes as far as psychoanalyzing politicians and celebrities (who hasn’t wondered lately what is up with Kanye west?)

A passing psychological labelling such as calling a person a psychopath or paranoid can leave a stinging after affect, there isn’t much thought taken into account when someone starts labeling others. 
When confiding with someone or casually having a conversation and someone takes it upon themselves to diagnose the conversation midway, it can throw the person receiving that unqualified diagnoses off. Some remarks or behaviors are just normal, but now they are put in a position to think there is something unhealthy or off about them. Not to mention it kills the conversation they were supposed to have by putting the person wrongfully (amateurly) diagnosed at unease. When psychologists take hours on hours of sessions to finally break the news that from all the sessions, they can conclude this assessment (que the label). 

 

Keep in mind we never show all our layers to one person;every person gets to see a certain layer on a certain day (could be good or bad) so labeling might help the labeler feel at ease and smart that they figured it out but can cause more harm than good for the labelee. 

However, nowadays people make a conscious decision to want to read a psychological book about depression, mood disorders, etc. so why the sudden interest in psychology? Is it because deep down we all want to be understood by ourselves first, to be conscious about why we felt that way during a situation and why someone reacts a certain way. It helps us understand ourselves and others. Now we know what veterans go through after a mission that term is named PSTD, and mental health facilities can offer the proper treatment for the war veterans to recover from the intangible side effects of war. The same goes to other mental health issues like OCD, ICD, trichotillomania. Whatever you have say it and psychology will put a label on it. The good thing about it is that if you Googled the term you will find your genre of mentally ill community that will make you feel welcomed and less alone.

While using books, courses and the internet to gain more insight on psychology is commendable and healthy to gain an understanding of oneself and society as a whole, I urge people not to jump into conclusions before making an assessment that can ultimately hurt the person hearing that label.

Day One

Did I lose the art of writing and my source of self-expression? It used to be my Narnia or the drowning tree that takes me to wonderland. I’ve been trying lately with no luck. Where do I start? Words lately feels redundant, I hate that I live in this broken record of nothing comes my way. Positivity is hard work, when your brain wakes and shuts on horrifying thoughts and grim. Religion helps, it helps a lot. But again, it’s hard work to read Quran or to speak to Allah (through duaa,.. relax people). It’s also hard work to get to the gym or walk for an hour. It’s hard to make plans with friends or set goals and see them through. It’s especially very hard to be unemployed for almost a year. Adulting and living a healthy non-toxic life feels like stepping on my wound every step of the way with a hard-pressed smile on my face. That theory of faking it till you make it is taking a hell lot of time to happen, but I’ll keep carrying on.